Most people think that it’s hard to change. I disagree. I find that changing can be incredibly easy.
I like to believe that I’ve mastered self-control. I take the time to think through every decision I make. Honestly, I almost think about it too much.
As an introvert, I fear a lot of things. I fear social situations, anything new, but mostly, I fear myself. I’m afraid that I will allow myself to disappear, and I don’t want that. I want to leave some kind of mark on the world.
That’s why I force myself to do what scares me. When I am afraid to do something, I use my self-control to my advantage. I convince myself to do it. That’s all I need to do. Once I’ve started something, I have to finish it.
This is not to say that my emotions play no role in my decision making. They absolutely do.
In most cases, it’s my emotions that convince me that something needs to change. That I need to make a decision. But, I use reason and logic to determine what that decision should be. Then I consider whether the decision will bring positive change.
If I determine that it will, I lean into my fears. I do this to show myself that there’s nothing to fear. I do this to prove to myself that I am capable of whatever I decide.
My advice to you, my fellow anxious introverts, is to do whatever scares you. Once you do, you will feel strong and capable.
I’m naturally very quiet and timid, but I am capable of being ferocious and outgoing. I just have to decide to be.
Too many people try to force themselves into a box. But you don’t have to be any specific thing. You can be everything.
You are capable of being anything you want to be. You can do anything you want to do. You just have to own it. We are capable of amazing things.